Unfinished Feeling or Emotional Baggage
Segments
Grieving Episode 30 min
Grieving - Mother
This clip is a good example of expressing empathy, understanding, and encouragement to a friend who is overwhelmed at the moment. Good friends are often touched deeply when one of them loses an important emotional attachment.
Attachment Type: Relationship
Running Time: 2:54 min
Type: Heartfelt – The scene deals with personal loss and emotional vulnerability.
Curated into: 6,9,12
Languages: English
Segment Code: 1023A
Sources: The Big Bang Theory. S8E15, 2015
Acting-Out Feelings - Bullying
In this emotionally charged scene, the character Bender peels back his tough exterior to reveal the unresolved pain he carries from his abusive home life. His sarcasm and rebellion, which have defined him until now, are revealed to be protective shields against deep emotional wounds.
The group begins to understand that each of them, in their own way, is carrying emotional baggage—some inherited, some self-inflicted, and all of it unspoken until now. This is a rare moment of vulnerability where grief, anger, shame, and loneliness converge, showing that much of what we call “bad behavior” is actually unprocessed pain.
Breakfast Club, 1985
Included in: 3,6,9,12
Principles discussed: Emotional Baggage, Unfinished Feelings, Processing Feelings
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Triggers give us an opening to process unfinished feelings.
➔ The bully is triggered by feelings of powerlessness at home, and he overreacts toward the other students in an attempt to regain control. -
Unfinished feelings reside in our bodies and can cause emotional and physical distress.
➔ Because he has never processed his pain or grief, the bully’s emotional turmoil spills over into aggressive and harmful behavior toward others. -
Shame binds feelings and prevents us from revealing who we really are.
➔ Underneath the bully's anger and bravado is deep shame about how he is treated at home, which he tries to cover up with cruelty toward others. -
It is important to become aware of how we defend against feeling and processing our emotions.
➔ The bully character uses tough, aggressive behavior to defend against more vulnerable feelings like fear, shame, and sadness.
Raw – Emotions are exposed without filters, giving the scene a powerful, almost uncomfortable honesty.
Empathetic – It invites viewers to feel beyond the surface and recognize the pain behind the performance.
Uncomfortable – The truth revealed about abuse and hidden feelings is hard to witness—but important.
Humanizing – The scene breaks down stereotypes and reminds us that everyone carries pain we often don’t see.
Grieving - Breakup
“All you can do, is let it hurt” These 8 words should become a meme! It is a fundamental truth that not only is letting it hurt all we can do; it is the best thing to do!
Type: Honest
Curated into: Comprehensive
Languages: English
Sources: Californication.
Grieving - Goal or Cause
This is funny take on how we might miss doing a chore and have to grieve the loss.
Type: Funny
Curated into: Comprehensive, 6 hour
Languages: English
Sources: Gilmore Girls
Processing - Drug Habit
Description: A funny and honest look at how difficult it is to process the complex feelings around an addiction.
Type: Funny, Tragic
Curated into Program: Comprehensive, 6 hour
Languages: English
Source: Fraser S3Ep21, 1996, Basketball Diaries 1995
Grieving - Father
Gatherings such as funerals have traditionally been a ritual to help people connect around their grief and to remember the deceased person which often triggers the feelings of loss.
The rituals around death and dying are varied in different cultures while all serving the same purpose of aiding in processing the death.
Unfortunately there are many people who can’t take advantage of the ritual because they feel embarrassed, or even shame, at showing emotion and tears. They may shut down hard, in different ways, in order to not let the sadness come up.
Type: Funny
Curated into: Comprehensive
Languages: English
Sources: Madam Secretary
Grieving - Sports Injury
This clip is a good example of the complex number of feelings that can surface around a loss of important plans and potential.
It also, demonstrates how important it is to have a safe caring person to be with to be able to feel and express the depth of the grief.
Type: Funny
Curated into: Comprehensive
Languages: English
Sources: Friday Night Lights
Grieving - Trust your Feelings
A funny example attempting to show that other feelings pop up and need to be felt in order to get to the necessary grieving.
Type: Funny
Curated into: Comprehensive
Languages: English
Sources: Monk xxxxx, 30 Rock
Grieving - Many Attachments
This clip is a good example of when there are many emotional attachments in crisis at the same time.
It also demonstrates how being with loving, supportive people can allow all of the feelings to come tumbling out..
Type: Funny, Vulnerable
Curated into: Comprehensive
Languages: English
Sources: Family Ties S5E23,24
Grieving - Appearance
Aging gracefully is an ability a lot of people don’t have and they go to great lengths to maintain a more youthful appearance. This is a problem when we need to look a certain way in order to feel good enough.
Frantically having surgery, or trying other ways to maintain a younger look, is a defense against feeling not good enough and being afraid of rejection.
Type: Funny
Curated into: Comprehensive
Languages: English
Sources: This is 40, City Slickers, Death Becomes Her
Grieving - Social Media
When the removal of an emotional attachment needs to be grieved and we don’t understand this, or know how to do it, we may distract ourself to the point that the distraction becomes an obsession.
This is a behaviour that is driven by unresolved emotional pain that can be processed if this is understood, and there is necessary support to feel the grief and other feelings.
Acting-out feelings such as anger can lead to tragedy.
Sometimes we have enormous regret that we have to grieve.
Type: Funny
Curated into: Comprehensive
Languages: English
Sources: CNN